Do you struggle with “Right vs. Wrong” thinking?

It’s a little more than perfectionism and people pleasing. It’s also about not knowing what done looks like (impaired executive functions), or struggling with a set of social rules we don’t always understand. In any case, all have the effect of keeping us from finishing tasks or reaching goals. I’ve written about “Done is Better Than Perfect”, but here’s another perspective.

One trick to combat the inertia of right vs. wrong thinking is to determine to do the task “wrong”. By wrong I mean that sometimes there is no right or perfect way, there is only our own preference, and we can make choices based solely on our own preferences! This can be a little scary in some cases because it’s a common experience for ADHD folks to have received a lot of feedback that we’re doing things wrong in one way or other, and more frequently than our NT counterparts.

We can also get stuck thinking things must executed perfectly each and every time, even on the smallest of tasks, forgetting that we can change our minds and do the task differently next time.

Life is an experiment. Boldly moving forward without having it perfectly figured out—without knowing what the best answer is in every situation—also means we have the opportunity to learn new ways of doing things.

I would love to hear your perspective!

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